Beautiful Boxford

From outside...

I have to say I was a little worried about Boxford - I hadn't had much of a chance to do much extra publicity there and the postering had been a bit patchy.  So, the small but select audience was a relief - there is always a possibility that if I don't have enough people I can't actually perform the show.

And inside...

It's also a venue I booked sight unseen - so it's always nice to go into somewhere and find that it is not just fit for purpose, but warm and welcoming.  It is a space for events and drama, not for sport, and I have yet to play a space with a really high ceiling and a badminton acoustic.  There are one or two borderline places - we shall see.

So, tomorrow Cavendish! It's looking like a good house - so do get in touch to book. (Details below...)

An we'll end with a couple choice comments from the audience:
"Excellent - Thank you!"
"Engaging + compelling evening - Bravo!"

The Summoning of Everyman Tours March / April 2015
All shows will be Pay-What-You-Want and tickets can be reserved by phone or online.
Telephone: 07946 652 196
Email: contact@milkbottleproductions.co.uk
For emails or any phone messages please state your name, contact number, number of tickets and, most importantly, which date/venue you're booking for.

Cavendish Memorial Hall                           -              Wednesday 1st April at 7.30pm

Hitcham Village Hall                                   -              Thursday 2nd April at 7.30pm

Maurice Rowson Hall, Gosfield                  -              Friday 3rd April at 7.30pm

Leavenheath Village Hall                            -              Sunday 5th April at 6pm

Hundon Village Hall                                   -              Monday 6th April at 7.30pm

Creeting St Mary Jubilee Hall                     -              Tuesday 7th April at 7.30pm

Assington Village Hall                                -              Thursday 9th April at 7.30pm

Brettenham Village Hall                             -              Tuesday 14th April at 7.30pm

Steeple Bumpstead Village Hall                 -              Wednesday 15th April at 7.30pm

St Mary’s Church, Chilton                         -              Sunday 19th April at 3pm

Boxted & Hartest Institute                         -              Monday 20th April at 7.30pm

Stisted Village Hall                                    -              Wednesday 22nd April at 7.30pm

All details correct at time of press – updates, corrections and directions to shows can be found online – or contact us direct.

Rumble in Waldingfield

It was another lovely audience for Everyman at Great Waldingfield - collected some nice good and bad deed - though I'm afraid for the Bad Deeds you will have to wait.  The shirt of Bad Deeds is getting so full that I'm in danger of repeating old Bad Deeds, so from now on you won't get the bad till I've finished with a shirt and can document it as a whole.
And one of the audience even offered me a some spare shirts for the future - so that will solve a problem I've been thinking about over the last few weeks.
Here's a short vlog and a selection of Good Deeds - which are easier to catalogue - next show BOXFORD (see below)!

Good Deeds:
Help a random stranger who was in dire need of medical attention
Child minding for free!
Helped a man with a serious heart condition
Donated money to charity
I gave my dinner to a homeless guy in Hammersmith
Driving my folks to + from the airport
Smile!
Helping an old lady who fell over and called Ambulance
Rescuing a cat from jaws of dog
Being a veggie
I meet a friend every morning
Gave someone a lift in my car

Audience comments:
"An excellent show and performance. I was completely transported back to the medieval period. Great work!"
"Thank you Robert for another tour-de-force. Well done!"
"Fabulous - so many words! Thank you & well done."

The Summoning of Everyman Tours March / April 2015
All shows will be Pay-What-You-Want and tickets can be reserved by phone or online.
Telephone: 07946 652 196
Email: contact@milkbottleproductions.co.uk
For emails or any phone messages please state your name, contact number, number of tickets and, most importantly, which date/venue you're booking for.

Boxford Village Hall                                   -              Tuesday 31st March at 7.30pm

Cavendish Memorial Hall                           -              Wednesday 1st April at 7.30pm

Hitcham Village Hall                                   -              Thursday 2nd April at 7.30pm

Maurice Rowson Hall, Gosfield                  -              Friday 3rd April at 7.30pm

Leavenheath Village Hall                            -              Sunday 5th April at 6pm

Hundon Village Hall                                   -              Monday 6th April at 7.30pm

Creeting St Mary Jubilee Hall                     -              Tuesday 7th April at 7.30pm

Assington Village Hall                                -              Thursday 9th April at 7.30pm

Brettenham Village Hall                             -              Tuesday 14th April at 7.30pm

Steeple Bumpstead Village Hall                 -              Wednesday 15th April at 7.30pm

St Mary’s Church, Chilton                         -              Sunday 19th April at 3pm

Boxted & Hartest Institute                         -              Monday 20th April at 7.30pm

Stisted Village Hall                                    -              Wednesday 22nd April at 7.30pm

All details correct at time of press – updates, corrections and directions to shows can be found online – or contact us direct.

Brief Report from Chappel and Wakes Colne

It's a busy day today, getting ready for tonight's performance in Great Waldingfield, so I'll be brief.  I loved performing Everyman last night.  It can be a struggle sometimes.  Sometimes you're not feeling it, sometimes the audience needs to be drawn in, sometimes it doesn't quite click.  For the first time, ever, I felt ready to do the show last night.  Every time I've been Everyman, I've been pulling the show together for one or two performances.  Having now run tryouts and started a tour in earnest, I feel ready - ready to let the play take me where it needs to go.
It helped that the audience at Chappel and Wakes Colne Village Hall were very, very good.  The concentration and eye contact was superb.  Thanks must go to Christine Underwood for being such a good host, and Phil and Rachel Hope for helping with front of house.

Short video and a few comments from the audience - you'll have to wait for more Good and Bad Deeds till the next post.

"Great evening, interesting, makes you think!"
"Very thought provoking..."
"Message all too true! So well put over."
"A most enjoyable show - thanks!"

First Night in Darkest Offton & Willisham

ROAD CLOSED.  Never a good sign.

I really liked these curtains as a back drop for the table...

As signs go, it's not up there with FREE SWEETS or WE ARE CURRENTLY RUNNING A GOOD SERVICE.  I wasn't worried that I wouldn't make it to the venue - I'd been forewarned, there was access - but that it might put off the audience, which when your show is Pay-What-You-Want is really not good.
I meet up with my generous hosts for the evening and set up.  And they really are good at Offton and Willisham Village Hall - welcoming, helpful and really enthusiastic.  I was put onto the space by a friend Mark, who was in The Juliet Inquiry last year and he suggested touring the show there.  It went well and so I was really looking forward to coming back.
Slowly an audience arrived and the ritual began.  Share your Good and Bad Deeds - and the conversion begins.  It's usually around how difficult it is to think of a Good Deed and how hard it is to choose a Bad.
And they're a good audience, they listen.  The space works well with the play - a slight echo, enough to create atmosphere, not enough to destroy clarity.
Afterwards it's time for tea (I'm on antibiotics at the moment so can't have alcohol - boo!) and a chat with the audience.  Finally home and this blog.  As per, here are some of the Good and Bad Deeds we shared.  And a v. short snippet of video - I didn't have time to film more.

Bad Deeds:
Believing that I haven't done a bad deed!
Cheated on a test
Eating Whale Meat (Yummy!)
White Lie
Drinking in Excess
Grumpy
Over Indulgence
Got Up Late
Road Rage
Not Listening
Shot a Rabbit
Did not clean my teeth
I / will have wasted a myriad of opportunities to do a good deed.
Didn't put the wife's Valentine flowers in water - they were a bit floppy by 14th Feb

And one for debate...
Deliberately letting a competitor win a race

Awaiting the audience...

Good Deeds:
Looking after Grandchildren
Raised a family who have raised a family and married a woman who cares for others
Always be kind
Giving your time to charity
Helping others
Raise money for good causes
Volunteered for the RDA
Friendship
Youth Club Sailing Instructor
Volunteered at youth group
Loaned money
Oiled kitchen cupboards
30 years on Hall Committee
Youth Offending Panel
Flowers to a sick friend
Helped a lady out by mending her clutch cable by the roadside
Cleaned my elderly neighbours wheely bin

Realising a Metal Harvest

Concept artwork for the original,
unrealised production

After the chaos of so many shows last year, this year has so far been quite straightforward.  A few productions, one a revival, and mostly I'm editing and shaping work, not actively writing.  But even so, I'm mostly reacting to events, putting shows together at the last minute (i.e. with a few months notice) rather than properly planning ahead.  There was a time when I planned 18 months ahead (even if not everything happened as planned - see the Seldom plan in posts ad passum) and could get my ducks properly in a row.  Here starts the planning.

One of the shows I didn't do last year was titled Metal Harvest and I was gutted that it fell by the wayside - it's a simple show in many ways, but it's a bitch to get right.  It's a storytelling/character/music piece about the life cycle of a shell from the First World War.  I was going to be performing it on the 100th anniversary of Britain entering the war, but it makes more sense to be doing it a hundred years after 1915 - an hundred years after the shell crisis and big changes to how munitions were created.  All sounds a bit dry, but the shell is a pretext to tell the stories of those who handle it.
And then there's the music.  On Wednesday I had a meeting with Richard Fawcett, who's composing and arranging the score (as well as playing a mean fiddle), and I'm glad to report the show is on - and it's already sounding really, really good.  We've worked together on music for a couple of shows now - the last being for The Passion which would have been a completely different show without the musical interplay.  We've been talking about this show for almost eighteen months now and for the first time I've been able to present him with an outline text, so that his musically ideas can now fill gaps between scenes, create physical sections, create atmospheres and push me to create new words.  To say I left feeling fairly buzzed would be an understatement.
I then walked down the road to the Quay Theatre and pitched the show to the coordinator and we have a date for a first performance penciled in (subject to fate etc.)  I'm hoping to run a limited tour after this first show, taking in some of the venues I've toured with Everyman, as well as any other places that come our way.  I'd also like to fully document the show, video and audio, so that it has more of an afterlife.

At the same time as rehearsing this show, I'll be finishing off work on the Chester Mystery Plays for my Before Shakespeare project - and hopefully doing some writing.  I've also got some work for another company, but that's not creative per se, so doesn't eat into my time in the same way.

That covers 2015 - now to sort out 2016 - but I can't do that till I see how well the Everyman tour goes.

Adventures Out and About

Interior of Chappel &
Wakes Colne VH

Next week Everyman starts to tour - Tuesday 24th March is D-Day.
We start in Offton and Willisham Village Hall - where I toured The Juliet Inquiry last year and who made as more than welcome.  This was the first date I booked and I was determined to start the tour there.  On Wednesday I'm crossing the border into Essex for Chappel and Wakes Colne Village Hall - I spent a lovely day out there the other month, delivering flyers and posters and have a general wander round - the people who run it are lovely and I'm looking forward to getting to know them better.  All photos and video footage for this post are from there.
Lastly for next week, Great Waldingfield Village Hall on Thursday - which is entirely new to me, though I have often driven past it.

If you live in or know anyone from these places, then do share this post with them - get them to come along, there are still tickets available.  Full list of dates below - and below that, pictures!

The Summoning of Everyman Tours March / April 2015
All shows will be Pay-What-You-Want and tickets can be reserved by phone or online.
Telephone: 07946 652 196
Email: contact@milkbottleproductions.co.uk
For emails or any phone messages please state your name, contact number, number of tickets and, most importantly, which date/venue you're booking for.
I'll be keeping this blog post updated and there's a page on the microsite and shortly on my website.
If your local venue is not represented it's not too late to be added to the tour.  I'll come to churches, village halls, small rooms or even your home for a private performance for friends and family - just contact me and we'll see what can be done.  Have toothbrush, will travel!

Offton & Willisham Village Hall                  -              Tuesday 24th March at 7.30pm

Chappel & Wakes Colne Village Hall         -              Wednesday 25th March at 7.30pm

Great Waldingfield Village Hall                   -              Thursday 26th March at 7.30pm

Boxford Village Hall                                   -              Tuesday 31st March at 7.30pm

Cavendish Memorial Hall                           -              Wednesday 1st April at 7.30pm

Hitcham Village Hall                                   -              Thursday 2nd April at 7.30pm

Maurice Rowson Hall, Gosfield                  -              Friday 3rd April at 7.30pm

Leavenheath Village Hall                            -              Sunday 5th April at 6pm

Hundon Village Hall                                   -              Monday 6th April at 7.30pm

Creeting St Mary Jubilee Hall                     -              Tuesday 7th April at 7.30pm

Assington Village Hall                                -              Thursday 9th April at 7.30pm

Brettenham Village Hall                             -              Tuesday 14th April at 7.30pm

Steeple Bumpstead Village Hall                 -              Wednesday 15th April at 7.30pm

St Mary’s Church, Chilton                         -              Sunday 19th April at 3pm

Boxted & Hartest Institute                         -              Monday 20th April at 7.30pm

Stisted Village Hall                                    -              Wednesday 22nd April at 7.30pm

All details correct at time of press – updates, corrections and directions to shows can be found online – or contact us direct.

On the train to Chappel and Wakes Colne...

A View from a bridge - of a pub...

Behind this rather fabulous sign - some great looking footpaths...

A lovely Chapel in Chappel... or Wakes Colne. One of the two.

The Village Hall - where I'll be on Wednesday!

The interior - the blank canvas before the show.

Last of the Tryouts

I've completed my first round of tryouts for Everyman now - lots of work still to do, but some really great feedback and the show improves every time.  Last night I was performing for a play readers group in Hadleigh, where the discussion of the play afterwards lasted longer than the play itself.  I do like a good discussion.
As promised last post, the Bad and Good Deeds from the last few shows... (all spelling original)

Bad Deeds:
I put a bag of stones in the wheelie bin
Disciplined a student - he didn't deserve it.
Broke an ornament in someone's house and hid the evidence.
Parked in one of the co-ops disabled car spaces.
Forced someone to pay for a scratch on my car that I did.
Told my parents a lie and said I had to go to a meeting rather than seeing them.
Stole flowers from my neighbour's garden.
Played a trick on my sister said she fell over and hurt herself
I stole some sweets when I was a child.
Didn't count a putt in golf on my score!!
Ate sweets when I shouldn't / Ate too much chocolate
Serious murderous thoughts regarding Putin!

Good Deeds:
I take my neighbour's weely-bin out and put it back. : )
Learnt to smile
Helped with my granddaughter when she broke her arm. In fact solely in charge!
I donated my bike to the thriftshop Hadleigh.
To give hope where none exists.
Helped a friend in distress with financial matters
Visit elderly people who live alone.
Helping someone less fortunate than yourself
Started a community group who subsequently raised lots for charity
Helped someone who fell over in the street.
Helped to organise a surprise party for a friend
I took a German hitchhiker from Gibraltar to Calais and bought all his meals on the journey

And I'll leave you with a few more quotes from the audience...
"Something we are unused to - but enjoyed immensely... Thank you!  A first... Unusual and interesting... Terrific & thought provoking - thank you..."
And I even put together a little word cloud of the audience reviews so far...

The Summoning of Everyman Tours March / April 2015
All shows will be Pay-What-You-Want and tickets can be reserved by phone or online.
Telephone: 07946 652 196
Email: contact@milkbottleproductions.co.uk
For emails or any phone messages please state your name, contact number, number of tickets and, most importantly, which date/venue you're booking for.
I'll be keeping this blog post updated and there's a page on the microsite and shortly on my website.
If your local venue is not represented it's not too late to be added to the tour.  I'll come to churches, village halls, small rooms or even your home for a private performance for friends and family - just contact me and we'll see what can be done.  Have toothbrush, will travel!

Offton & Willisham Village Hall                  -              Tuesday 24th March at 7.30pm

Chappel & Wakes Colne Village Hall         -              Wednesday 25th March at 7.30pm

Great Waldingfield Village Hall                   -              Thursday 26th March at 7.30pm

Boxford Village Hall                                   -              Tuesday 31st March at 7.30pm

Cavendish Memorial Hall                           -              Wednesday 1st April at 7.30pm

Hitcham Village Hall                                   -              Thursday 2nd April at 7.30pm

Maurice Rowson Hall, Gosfield                  -              Friday 3rd April at 7.30pm

Leavenheath Village Hall                            -              Sunday 5th April at 6pm

Hundon Village Hall                                   -              Monday 6th April at 7.30pm

Creeting St Mary Jubilee Hall                     -              Tuesday 7th April at 7.30pm

Assington Village Hall                                -              Thursday 9th April at 7.30pm

Brettenham Village Hall                             -              Tuesday 14th April at 7.30pm

Steeple Bumpstead Village Hall                 -              Wednesday 15th April at 7.30pm

St Mary’s Church, Chilton                         -              Sunday 19th April at 3pm

Boxted & Hartest Institute                         -              Monday 20th April at 7.30pm

Stisted Village Hall                                    -              Wednesday 22nd April at 7.30pm

All details correct at time of press – updates, corrections and directions to shows can be found online – or contact us direct.

Home Coming

"Gosh! It was quite wonderful." * 

My first home show of Everyman this year was great fun - considering how serious the play is.  Normally I do comedy for home shows, or classic stories that hug people like a lovely warm blanket, so I was a little worried that a sombre play about death would jar.  Thankfully, it didn't.

"Amazing performance, although I knew it would be.  So thought provoking and moving.  At one point I thought I was going to cry!!"

I had also been warned that the cottage of my host was somewhat small, so there was a little bit of fear before hand that I wouldn't be able to make the show fit.  When I arrived this fear was dispelled, it was tight, but perfectly workable and my delightful host allowed me to move the furniture about and generally make a mess.

"A triumph! Thought provoking, light & dark, everything for a complete performance - superb!!"

The guests arrived in mixed batches of ones and twos and as they arrived I asked them to add their contribution to my list of Good and Bad deeds.  The Bad deeds were particularly good, but I won't publish them till after the next show, to preserve the anonymity of the confessional - for there were only seven guests in the audience and it is conceivable the dataset could be reverse engineered to reveal identity.  I say only seven guests (well, six plus host), but seven was ideal, and every one responded beautifully to the show. 'Confession' even put a comforting hand on my shoulder at one point, which was perfect.

"Fantastic performance, totally captivating from start to finish. Superb! Thank you Robert."

The only thing I forgot to do was remind people to switch off phones, though as it happened it was the house phone that went off.  And then went to answerphone.  The show survived.

"Fascinating and moving - thank you for an amazing performance.  Very thought provoking."

And after the performance, food!  By far my favourite part of doing home shows is afterwards - but I would say that, I've done my work and get to relax.  Then you get to discuss the play with convivial company before discussion diverts into more general areas and much fellowship is had.
I even got to take home some cheese.

*All quotes from audience members.

As you can see above, a home show can be great fun for everyone - and there's still time to book me so long as you're based in the UK - I usually work on a pass the hat round basis for home shows, but this varies depending on distance - just give me a buzz online or call the number below.

The Summoning of Everyman Tours March / April 2015
All shows will be Pay-What-You-Want and tickets can be reserved by phone or online.
Telephone: 07946 652 196
Email: contact@milkbottleproductions.co.uk
For emails or any phone messages please state your name, contact number, number of tickets and, most importantly, which date/venue you're booking for.
I'll be keeping this blog post updated and there's a page on the microsite and shortly on my website.
If your local venue is not represented it's not too late to be added to the tour.  I'll come to churches, village halls, small rooms or even your home for a private performance for friends and family - just contact me and we'll see what can be done.  Have toothbrush, will travel!

Offton & Willisham Village Hall                  -              Tuesday 24th March at 7.30pm

Chappel & Wakes Colne Village Hall         -              Wednesday 25th March at 7.30pm

Great Waldingfield Village Hall                   -              Thursday 26th March at 7.30pm

Boxford Village Hall                                   -              Tuesday 31st March at 7.30pm

Cavendish Memorial Hall                           -              Wednesday 1st April at 7.30pm

Hitcham Village Hall                                   -              Thursday 2nd April at 7.30pm

Maurice Rowson Hall, Gosfield                  -              Friday 3rd April at 7.30pm

Leavenheath Village Hall                            -              Sunday 5th April at 6pm

Hundon Village Hall                                   -              Monday 6th April at 7.30pm

Creeting St Mary Jubilee Hall                     -              Tuesday 7th April at 7.30pm

Assington Village Hall                                -              Thursday 9th April at 7.30pm

Brettenham Village Hall                             -              Tuesday 14th April at 7.30pm

Steeple Bumpstead Village Hall                 -              Wednesday 15th April at 7.30pm

St Mary’s Church, Chilton                         -              Sunday 19th April at 3pm

Boxted & Hartest Institute                         -              Monday 20th April at 7.30pm

Stisted Village Hall                                    -              Wednesday 22nd April at 7.30pm

All details correct at time of press – updates, corrections and directions to shows can be found online – or contact us direct.

Student Tryout

On Friday I did wend my merry way to the University of Essex to perform The Summoning of Everyman for some first years.  This is the second time I've done this and was a great way for me to tryout the show before the tour starts in earnest.  Here is a video of my time there...


"Really interesting and clever take on this play, that I first had hated!" *

[*All quotes are feedback from the students after the performances.]
I performed the show twice and generally talked about the play between times, so it was a full on few hours.  It was useful in two ways.
1. I remembered how to work the show, because it's all about contact with the audience and that's really hard to rehearse in advance.
2. I could test out some of my newer ideas about staging.  Some of which worked, some didn't.

"Intense and insightful, a true reckoning."

A student audience isn't the same as a regular audience - they are there to learn, as part of their course, as the play is one they are studying.  They are not necessarily there to enjoy themselves and therefore my job as performer is harder.  I had to draw them into the play - when the absurdity of what I am trying to do is at its most apparent.  Here we are, in a relatively clinical performance space, with few props / lighting or setting to create mood.  I then start pretending to be, not just one person, but many - using different voices and actions.  It is less about the suspension of disbelief, more the suspension of the absurd.

"Really creative production that makes difficult language incredibly accessible."

Sometimes the show worked well, the connection with some of the audience was clear and strong - sometimes I felt a fool, as others looked away, or were generally not connecting at all.  By the second performance I was tired and made a few simple mistakes that were not coverable.  You expect to go wrong occasionally, but it's easy enough to save.  But I moved someone into the wrong place and started talking to the wrong person.  It is not a mistake I will make again.  But that's why we do tryouts.

"I loved the audience participation!"

There is another dynamic in play - these are drama students, so unlike the regular audience they will all (by and large) want to perform more than watch.  It is usually the opposite for civilians.  So there isn't the same focus born of fear, there isn't the same anticipation and worry about what happens next.  Also, those who weren't chosen to be actively involved seemed less attentive - perhaps disappointed not to be one of those getting up and about.  Again, I suspect with a regular audience this is not the case.  This also changed the dynamic of the room - because inattention is contagious.

"I understand it better."

I was testing out a new lighting arrangement - which palpably didn't work in that space.  That's going to change between now and the tour.  I also had a brainwave at the beginning of the piece that I might put in.  What did work very well was the enforced silence for the audience before the show began.  As people entered they were asked not to speak and follow certain tasks.  It was commented that I was like a priest with his congregation - which is has positive and negative sides.
I didn't use any music to open the show - though I plan there to be something for when I start the show on tour.  The event lives and dies on the atmosphere and the commitment of the audience.  What I do with them and the text then becomes greater than the sum of their parts.

"Perhaps a little more physicality would make it more visual."

I'm caught in a double bind regarding physicality with this show.  If I do too much then I'm spinning on a sixpence, jumping from one attitude to another like a nervous tick.  I didn't get the balance right for these performances, and that's where I'm focusing work over the next few days.  Not bigger, but clearer.  And I need to clearly plot my eye contact, I got a bit lazy in some places.

All in all, it was a good first stab at the show - on Thursday I'm doing a home performance of the play - and I'm looking forward to seeing what new things happen then.  Full details will follow.  But for now - here are all the Good and Bad Deeds I collected on Friday from the students.  Mostly they are generic things - I didn't make it clear that I wanted something specific from their lives - but some are telling.

Bad Deeds:  A preponderance of lying and cheating, plus laziness and a clear confession to the consumption of illegal substances confirms these are students.

Hurting others / Hurting or hunting (not quite clear)
Adultery / Committing Adultery
Cheating x3
Lying x3
Murder / Killing
Rape
Sexism
Stealing x2 / Theft
Vandalism
Drinking in excess
Laughing at others / Making others feel bad
Quarreling without purpose
Ignorance to those around you
I have consumed illegal substances (a student? really?)
Lazyiness (sic)
Frord (sic - presumably Fraud.  Bless.)

Good Deeds:  Always less amusing and more worthy, by the nature of things.  A lot of focus is on outward demonstrations - caring for people, giving money, as well as support.  A few are more internal, largely about combating selfishness - which is reassuring when so much of our culture is about self.

Caring for - someone who is unwell / others
Being kind to others
Being polite
Helping X2
Love thy neighbour / loving the people around you
Charity / Sharing what you have / Helping others in need / Helping others / Helping someone out financially / To help those less fortunate than yourself
Give money to a homeless man / Helping the homeless / Giving money to the homeless
Being there for someone
Thy to help others and focus less on your "self needs" / I have put others before myself  / Selflessness
Being honest
Listening
Embracing a persons imperfections
Making someone / making other people / making people - smile : ) / Cheering up a friend
Helping a person with the stairs